My own journey
At the end of my teenage years I started to experiment with intimacy and sex. It wasn’t until I got into more serious relationships in my twenties that I started to feel more and more insecure about my sexual encounters. For some reason it did not seem to work for me.
Sex wasn’t great. I did not experience lots of pleasure. I could not relate to what I saw in movies or on television about sex. My body, it seemed, was not working the way it ‘should’ work. I found myself more often just focusing on my partner’s pleasure because I didn’t know what I wanted or needed. And if you would have asked me what do you want, I would not have been able to tell you. I did not know how to talk about sex. I had the idea that some part of me was not functioning.
being able to enjoy sex
This all changed one day when I decided I had enough of feeling left out of the pleasures and fun that had to be out there somewhere. At that point I had worked for almost 10 years in the field of personal development. So I knew all along that there was something blocking me or limiting me in my expression of my sexuality. I was ready to take the next step.
The universe works in wondrous ways. A couple of months after that decision someone told me about Orgasmic Meditation. I sure had my doubts about it, but I was willing to try. I’m still grateful that I allowed myself to start practicing. That was 6 years ago.
Conquering shame and taboos
Out of practicing Orgasmic Meditation a whole new world opened up for me. I learned how to feel my own pleasure. How to talk about sex and ask for what I wanted. Breaking through shame and taboo. I discovered there was nothing wrong with me. I was never educated to understand how my body worked. And nobody told me how to talk about sex when I grew up.
I know that a lot of people have questions around sex. That we struggle discussing this in our relationships. Sometimes the things we desire don’t seem to fit in what is deemed ‘normal’.
With TurnOn the Netherlands I created a place for you to heal and reconnect to your sensuality. A place to talk openly about desire, sex and pleasure. Where you can get the tools and support to create the kind of intimacy that makes you feel alive, that you have fun with and lights you up.
I stand for a world where people experience being intimately connected. A world that works for all of us. Everyone included, no one left out.
about ORGASMIC MEDITATION
WhAT IS OM?
Orgasmic Meditation (OM) is a unique wellness practice that combines mindfulness with the power of the deeply human, deeply felt experience of Orgasm. During the practice, one person strokes another person’s clitoris for 15 minutes with no goal other than to both feel the sensation. That’s it. It’s a new category of practice in an intimate experience, that most of us haven’t had before. It is a whole new approach to wellness.
The meditation is simple, specific, and repeatable, using 12 steps creating a clear structure to follow. You learn how to clear your mind, feel your body, follow your intuition and be fully present.
The difference between climax and orgasm
There’s an important distinction that’s worth making between climax and the orgasm state. Climax is a few seconds of physical experience, a release of sexual energy, whereas the state of orgasm is continuous. In Orgasmic Meditation we practice the orgasm state. Allowing practitioners to access an optimal state of consciousness brought about by the activation of the sex impulse.
Our sexuality is an important aspect of our lives. When you feel happy and confident in the areas of intimacy and relationships, it enhances your self-confidence and the way you connect with other people.
I regularly hold lectures about Orgasmic Meditation. Take a look at the services page to find the next date.